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Debora was married with a man that didn’t have studied.

She wanted him to study and she couldn’t just tell him that he must do it and why, because it would be offensive.

So she suggested a partnership to her husband:

“Let’s sell some band of candles. I will make them and you take them to the Beit Hamikdash”

The only thing she wanted was him to be at a special atmosphere, so with that he would be interested to learnd more.

And he did, so they both were very special and studied.

Conclusion: You need “gloves” when you tell words to someone.

Debora found a way to incentivate her husband studies and she didn’t compare her situation with any of her friends. If making this, it’s the first thing to fall down with the relationship.